Monday, September 08, 2014

Mancats Adjusting

This weekend was spent trying to establish a new 'normal' in the house, one without Smokey.  I am thankful for scrapbooking and friends that provided a nice opportunity to be productive, instead of dwelling on the loss.  I do not have regrets about the decision I had to make for Smokey, but I still miss my snuggle bug.  It is especially hard at night when he would lay on my shoulder, like a baby while we watched tv, and then he would share my pillow throughout the night.  I keep telling Tanner and Oliver to "step it up" but they haven't taken to snuggling yet!
 
Oliver does not seem to notice that Smokey is gone.  They were not close, so I am not surprised.  When Ollie would try to snuggle in the bed at night, and would get too close to Smokey on the pillow, Smokey would bite him in the butt!  I can't blame Ollie for not being too eager to share the pillow with me!
 
Tanner is doing well, both physically from his cancer treatments, and emotionally.  He doesn't seem upset about Smokey.  They were not overly close either, as Tanner was much more attached to Devon and now Oliver and Cousin Georgie.
 
Cousin Sophie is the one taking it the hardest of all the cats.  She has wandered around the house looking in all of Smokey's spots looking for him.  We gave her time on Thursday evening and Friday morning to smell him, and see that he was not feeling well.  It will take her some time.
 
Cousin Pirate is excited to have the best bed in the house!  He has taken over Smokey's spot in one of the beds at the fireplace.
 
Here are a couple of photos of Smokey from Thursday and Friday of this past week.
 
Getting in some final snuggle time on Friday morning...my sweet boy just did not feel good. 
Thursday night laying on the couch on his favorite wool blanket.  His arm is wrapped from the catheter.  He had needed it all week to get fluids, and the vet just left it in to make things easier on Friday.
 
Thanks to everyone who stopped by the blog and sent purrs to Smokey.  Also, thanks to those that have left comments on Facebook for me.  I appreciate your compassion and understanding.  Sometimes it takes another cat lover to truly appreciate what you are feeling and experiencing.


37 comments:

  1. What? Oh, no, no, no. We didn't see your update in your last post. Oh, we're so so sorry. Oh, our hearts hurt for you. We know it was Smokey's time to cross, and we know his spirit always will be with you, but the journey through grief never is an easy one. Sending you soft purrs and keeping you in our thoughts and purrayers.

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  2. I'm pleased to hear the Crew isn't too distressed...it's hard enough to cope with "human" feelings without having to try to soothe loss to your kitties. I've had you in my thoughts, and you spurred me to find a vet in our area who will come to the house--Kona is a miracle every day she wakes up--so I thank you.
    xx Trish

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  3. I didn't see your update either, and I am so sorry Smokey lost his battle! Lots of purrs to you, and to the other cats in the family. My human says Binga and Boodie didn't seem to miss Sparkle either, but she saw them hanging out together the day before she died, and she thinks it was their way of saying good-bye to her.

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  4. God's speed Smokey & HIS strength to your mom; it's never an easy decision, but we know she made the choice out of compassion and love ♥ the two greatest gifts of all

    with sympathy from tuna, boomer, dai$y and dude and sauce too

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  5. Adjusting to a new normal can be easier for us than for humans. That's why we sometimes purr when you least expect it.

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  6. We are so sorry about Smokey. It's never easy even when you know it's the right thing to do.

    We purr that everyone adjusts to him being gone...and that Tanner continues to do well. oxox

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  7. It's so hard adjusting to a new normal, isn't it. We are sending purrs and prayers of comfort, especially for Sophie.

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  8. It's not easy to adjust to a new normal after the loss of a brofur. We send comforting purrs to you and your mom. Purrs

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  9. It is good to know that in general the cats are accepting the loss of Smokey. I hope that Cousin Sophie is able to accept it in time too. It is a very hard time for all of you and I send hugs. Keep hold of your precious memories to remember the good times.

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  10. OMC - I'm so sorry. This is the first we have heard of poor Smokey> We are so very sorry for your loss. It's so hard to lost a dear pet (says M). I know how I'd feel if I lost M or D - it would be horrid. M sends you a big HUG.

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  11. Been wondering how you all were doing. Hope Cousin Sophie adjusts soon. Still want you to know you are in our thoughts purrs and prayers. Glad to hear Tanner is still doing well.
    Purrs and a {{hug}}
    Marty and Mom

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  12. We are so very sorry about Smokey. It is so hard t lose a fur friend and the other cats do grieve. You certainly are in our prayers and thoughts.

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  13. Oh I am so so sorry. :-( So so sorry.

    Sending you all lots of purrs and hugs!

    Take care
    x

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  14. We are so sorry Smokey couldn't stay with you longer. Comforting purrs and our deepest sympathy for your loss.

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  15. We are very sorry it was Smokey's time. Mom says that the hardest part is that we don't live as long as people....but he was loved. purrs

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  16. Sending you all sorts of thought and purrrs of comfort at this hard time. We are thinking of all of you.

    hugs, Bugsy, Knuckles and Lou

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  17. We send lots of love and hugs and purrs.....the loss can be overwhelming but knowing they are no longer uncomfortable, or in pain, or even just not TIRED anymore helps....a bit.

    Hugs, Sammy and Mom Pam

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  18. We are so very, very sorry to hear about your sweet Smokey. We totally understand the adjustments being made in the household. We will be keeping you all in our thoughts. Warm, gentle hugs, lots of purrs and nose kisses

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  19. We are so sorry for your loss. We know it's a hard decision to make, but we know our humans do what is the best for us. RIP sweet Smokey. Comforting thoughts and (((HUGS))) to your family.

    Our mom is a scrapbooker too and with the passing of each of her furries, she does a special album for them. She loves looking at them from time to time.

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  20. We are keeping you close in our thoughts and prayers.

    Run free Smokey!

    Hugs,
    Lily Belle & Muffin

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  21. So very sorry about Snokey. I have had two cats with thyroid and renal issues so I know the ups and downs. Smokey is young and healthy again at the Bridge.

    With deepest sympathy,
    Cats of wildcat woods

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  22. Sending purrs and love! Fly free Smokey!

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  23. We are so sorry that Smokey had to leave. He was a most handsome mancat and we know how hard it is to lose the older ones, they are such true and dear friends.

    Sending you much love and many rumbly purrs, may happy memories fill your heart soon

    Luff
    Mungo
    & Jane The Ape xx

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  24. Our Best Purrs Of Comfort to all of you about Smokey going over the Bridge...

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  25. Somehow we too missed the update about Smokey. I am so deeply deeply sorry for you loss of your beloved snuggly buddy. It's very difficult to make the daily routine changes and that just takes time to help soften the memory where it is one of joy instead of one of sorrow. We are all keeping you in our purrs and prayers... Just know that Our loved ones never truly leaves us. They live on in the kindness they showed,the comfort they shared,&the love they brought into our lives

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  26. Sending purrs to the family. We are so sorry to read that Smokey had to leave you.
    ~ The Bunch and Mom Bobbie

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  27. We are so very sorry to hearing about sweet Smokey going to the Bridge.
    Sending hugs and healing purrs your way.
    With deepest sympathy,
    Angel Normie, Mika, Sasha & Grady Lewis

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  28. We, too, are sorry for the loss of your handsome Smokey. A warm hug, purrs and tail wags of comfort.

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  29. Many hugs to you at this difficult time. We are very sorry that it was time for Smokey to cross over.

    Luf, Us and Maw

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  30. Sending purrs of peace to you all in this difficult time. <3 Obi and Melissa

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  31. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Smokey.

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  32. Sad news. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Having two sick cats at once is quadruply difficult.
    Hope Tanner continues doing well- that ice cream trick is a good one to remember!
    Maggie

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  33. We are very sorry that Smokey has gone to the Bridge.
    We know you will miss him very much.
    We are glad he got to spend so many happy years at your home :)
    We send you all comforting purrs to help your heart heal.
    Purrs Georgia and Julie,
    Treasure and JJ
    and mom Nancy

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  34. So sorry to hear of Smokey going to the Rainbow Bridge! Lots of purrs and prayers to you all!
    Your TX furiends,
    Samantha & Mom

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  35. I didn't know until I got Ann's badge that Smokey flew away.

    Darling sweet Smokey, wait for us. I promise we will all be joining you. xox

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  36. We are so sad to hear that Smokey has gone over the Bridge. Until we meet again in that place of endless warm sun puddles watch over us from above dear Smokey.
    Purrs and Prayers of support
    Timmy Dad and Family

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